Unrequited love

I’ve heard the stories countless amounts of times, and I’m sure you have, too. As a matter of fact, maybe you’re in one of them right now. Two naive and innocent “Friends” think, believe, and hope that their gender difference will not play a part in their interaction. Yet, as a result of unguarded feelings and a couple of intimate nights, one of them (not both) suddenly begins to see the other in a new light. “Oh my…I never realized she is sooo veeerrryyyy beautiful....…..Man” the guy thinks. And with that thought comes crumbling down years and years of friendship. With that singular thought, disaster strikes. Because Guy isn’t happy with just being friends anymore. And this is quite a sad thing, beause, unfortunately, Gal does not reciprocate those feelings. As a matter of fact. She straight up thinks Guy is fugly(very ugly).

Unrequited love…FAIL!!

As a disclaimer, I want to say that the kind of relationship I am talking about here is the difficult cross gender “close” relationship. I’m not talking facebook friends, meet up once in a while and poke each other through facebook relationship. I’m talking about hanging out and being friendly or intimate on almost a day to day basis. With that out of the way, I’m going to answer this question as simply as possible. I personally believe that, for the most part, the answer is NO. I believe there is a slight possibility that “yes” is an option, however, most of the times when you combine two members of the opposite gender that are not currently dating, and put them in an environment where they are continuously interacting, one of them (if not both) will soon develop feelings for the other. It’s just pretty damn hard not to.

Most of the times, the guy is the one that caves in and develops feelings for the girl. The reason for this is because, if we go back to the ladder theory, girls will put their guy friends almost permanently on the “friends” ladder, and guys, having only one ladder, usually won’t hang out with a girl on a consistent basis unless they are attracted to her either consciously or subconsciously. In other words, most of the times, the guy wouldn’t be hanging out with the girl if he didn’t somewhat like her to begin with.

That’s why it’s so often that cross gender relationships end up becoming some sort of real life Drama. I can imagine it already. Movie starts. Director: ME!! The crowd’s applause is almost deafening…everyone knows who I AM! I am legendary! (just imagine :-P ) Opening Scene. In the movie, there’s a guy and girl who are friends. They do everything together! There’ll be scenes of them laughing, dancing, going to fairs, eating…all that good stuff! But the best scene is of them running together in the rain, both  shielded by just one newspaper, that barely succeeds in sheltering them from the onslaught of rain. They are giggling, in ecstasy, happy and in their own little world. Two regular “carrots and peas”. The girl is convinced that this relationship is completely affectionate. But the guy starts looking at her in a new way. He starts falling in love. Pretty soon, the guy can’t stop thinking about her…BUT THERE IS A PROBLEM! There is another guy, whom the girl is madly in love with. The guy knows this, but the song “You Belong With Me” by Taylor Swift inspires him to act on his feelings. Unfortunately for Taylor Swift, BEYONCE HAS ONE OF THE BEST VIDEOS OF ALL TIME! OF ALL TIME!!!!

Anyways, guy tells the girl that he loves her. Unfortunately, girl does not feel the same. She gets mad. He tries to kiss her, she shoves him away, and starts yelling at him and gets even angrier at him and blames him for trying to ruin their friendship. She starts running. It’s in slow motion. She is crying tears of anger, as she dramatically runs away with make up smothering all over her face. Her fake eyelashes are falling off.

Guy is all alone now with rain falling down on him. He doesn’t try to shield himself from the rain anymore, but just soaks it all in. He watches girl as she runs. She’s so close…and yet….so far away. Guy is crying. These are real tears. Not just water that is put on his face in between filming. So sad.

Girl, in a state of rage and confusion, goes to see Alpha Male. Girl sees Alpha Male kissing another girl. Girl gets upset. She runs up to Alpha Male, and slaps him in the face. Alpha Male looks confused. Girl is crying now, and runs away. Rain falling. Girl goes to some secluded corner and starts to think. Maybe…just maybe…maybe I DO LOVE HIM (Friend)! SHE REALIZES SHE DOES! THERE’S HOPE! IT MIGHT WORK! THE GIRL STARTS RUNNING TO THE GUY WITH THIS REVELATION! THERE IS EXCITEMENT! IT’S GOING TO WORK! GIRL GETS TO GUY’S HOUSE!!

Girl tries to open the door. Guy hears her. IT JUST MIGHT WORK! BUT WAIT A SECOND. OH NO! Guy has a gun in his hand. He wants to commit suicide. AHHHH! (crowd gasps) Girl doesn’t know! She asks guy to “OPEN THE DOOR!” She is excited! She wants to tell him that she loves him! She should have yelled it at the door for him to hear! But for some reason, she wants to see him face to face first. Stupid movie irony. Guy yells at girl to “go away”. He doesn’t want to see her. Girl runs around to the other side of the house where there is a window so that she can tell him she loves him! Guy sees her. He looks at her. Points the gun at his head. And before girl can react, pulls the trigger.

GIRL STARTS SCREAMING AND CRYING (it’s not a good drama without a good measure of screaming and crying). SHE STARTS YELLING AT THE WINDOW, FRUITLESSLY. The blood from the gunshot wound is already drenching the ground. The girl falls to her knees, weeping. She cries till there are no more tears, MOANING as she does this. She lets out one more beastly roar from deep within her soul.

Okay. Maybe the situation won’ t be THAT dramatic. BUT HONESTLY. When there is unrequited love involved, there are some RETARDED things that happen. And although usually no one dies, hearts get broken, people get jaded, and feelings get turned upside down,some close people whom we olways cherish turns into some people we knew,To whom we used to share the evry part of our life,we just forcefully hide everything from thm even ourself....... It sucks. That’s why, if at all possible, it’s often better to avoid that sort of situation. It’s good to have friends of the opposite gender, but “close friend” is a difficult sell.....sooo nvr lose him\her....if at all this situation arrises....its ur responsibility to talk with ur opposite gender friend....n happily solve it...After ol...she is one n you are d one who cares for each other than any one else.....

So...Always remember....ITS THE WAY WE LIVE OUR LYF....:-) :-) -)