Happy Valentine's Day

FOR ALL THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE SOMEONE AND ARE LOVED BY SOMEONE. BE HAPPY ALWAYS

How Do I Love Thee?

How Do I Love Thee? Let me count the ways.
I LOVE thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when FEELING out of sight
For the ends of Being an ideal Grace. 
I love thee to the level of everyday's
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.

I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints,- I love thee with the Breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life!- and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death..

I love you always......

It has been a long time...

since I last came on here and wrote something.....

but yesterday I was provoked by sum of my friends to write something on a particular song (kal ho na ho) i know it might sound a bit funny and challenging....how can i write something with reference to some lyrics....bt yes ma friend told me to elaborate on some lyrics of that song.......soo i m tryin my best to elaborate on those lines....

Lyrics:

"Chaahe Jo tumhe poore dil se
Milta hai woh mushkil se
Aisa Jo koi kahin hai
Bas vahi sabse hasin hai"
These lines are all about them who loves you a lot....with all his/her open heart.....If there is someone in your life as such...That's the real way to happiness....Make her/him part of your life...
Now, this is the nice chance to say it all to my better half...

It is important that the person I love remembers that I did not forget him. That I love her just as much.. or even more then the day before ...

Even though I dont always show it I am always greatful that you are here with me, or when I can just hear the sound of your voice....

I know I can be stupid, or even a pain in the ass at times ...

But generally overall I just love you even if I do not show you that at times...

I do not have one bad feeling towards you at or in my heart ...
Sometimes I say awfull things, but that just means I lost my way... and lost the right words that belong to describe you....

Because if I would realise how awfull those words were which I was saying I would stop saying them.... Because even though you hurt me sometimes ... you are a lagoon of happiness in my life... and I would never want to loose you.... That is because I love you so much ...


Another reason why  I should never be unkind to you is because you do not desereve any unkindness, or hardship in life.....after all you are the only one who can really make me feel myself...i can laugh with u...cry with...n above all...i can be in your arms which actually make me feel like am at home...

Because I just want your life to be full of light, love and happiness...

Let me just hope that lies with me.... your happiness... because I know my happiness is wherever you are... wherever you go and whenever I hear you speak....

Because no matter where I am... when I am in your arms I am home...
I love you....Chinu ♥♥(Now that's a secret....only my better half can guess it right....:-PPP)

Thought on long distance relationship....

A long distance relationship is a special type of relationship, there's no other relationship quite like it. it's funny how a lot of people never seem to understand it and always look down upon it,thinking tht it's not a "real" relationship - what people fail to realise is than in a LDR, the bond you share with your significant other is incredibly strong (it has to be strong for it to last). That bond is special, it's not like what you have in a physical relationship. when the person can be right beside you. It's rewarding in the sense that there are moments in the relationship when you think about just how close you and your significant other are but at the time, you can be so far apart, even thousands of miles..

In a LDR, physical attraction cannot sustain a relationship...instead, it's the emotional and mental attraction and attachment between the two people that make it successful. It's a whole lot of hardwork when all you have are words,pictures, and occasionally phone calls/video chats. its where you can't just get by....you actually have to make effort to make things work..

Time is never on your side and it never feels that there is quite enough of it, especially with the time difference and distance is truly a bitch. Love,trust,understanding, and patience are tested on a daily basis in a LDR - only the presence of these in ample amounts will see the hard times through.

There are so many challenges and obstacles that must be overcome but it's also something that's very rewading because you share something with your significant other that is completely different from anything else you've experienced before and it is at another level compared to any other type of relationship.

Nobody ever 'choose' to be in LDR, it just 'happens'. People in these relationship arent lonely, have lives, and arent desperate. They dont go for something like this because they just want a person to like/love them - if somebody wanted that, there are much easier ways of getting it. When two people are absolutely perfect for each other, nobody else is good enough or worth the time, and if that person unfortunately lives half way across the world, then a LDR is bound to be formed.

In cicumstances like these,you realise that physical attraction is so insignificant compared to the connection the two people share. Even if the other person is oceans apart from you, the love between the two people can bridge any gap, whether it be a 3 hours drive of 15 hour plane ride away.

So yeah, thats 2 cents on a quite personal matter.

To those currently in LDRs, perhaps you'll understand what i am trying to say and i wish you the best of luck.

To those contemplating whether or not it's worth it - it is one of the best things you will ever experience.

To those that look down upon it, maybe it's time to become more open-minded to some things?????

Unrequited love

I’ve heard the stories countless amounts of times, and I’m sure you have, too. As a matter of fact, maybe you’re in one of them right now. Two naive and innocent “Friends” think, believe, and hope that their gender difference will not play a part in their interaction. Yet, as a result of unguarded feelings and a couple of intimate nights, one of them (not both) suddenly begins to see the other in a new light. “Oh my…I never realized she is sooo veeerrryyyy beautiful....…..Man” the guy thinks. And with that thought comes crumbling down years and years of friendship. With that singular thought, disaster strikes. Because Guy isn’t happy with just being friends anymore. And this is quite a sad thing, beause, unfortunately, Gal does not reciprocate those feelings. As a matter of fact. She straight up thinks Guy is fugly(very ugly).

Unrequited love…FAIL!!

As a disclaimer, I want to say that the kind of relationship I am talking about here is the difficult cross gender “close” relationship. I’m not talking facebook friends, meet up once in a while and poke each other through facebook relationship. I’m talking about hanging out and being friendly or intimate on almost a day to day basis. With that out of the way, I’m going to answer this question as simply as possible. I personally believe that, for the most part, the answer is NO. I believe there is a slight possibility that “yes” is an option, however, most of the times when you combine two members of the opposite gender that are not currently dating, and put them in an environment where they are continuously interacting, one of them (if not both) will soon develop feelings for the other. It’s just pretty damn hard not to.

Most of the times, the guy is the one that caves in and develops feelings for the girl. The reason for this is because, if we go back to the ladder theory, girls will put their guy friends almost permanently on the “friends” ladder, and guys, having only one ladder, usually won’t hang out with a girl on a consistent basis unless they are attracted to her either consciously or subconsciously. In other words, most of the times, the guy wouldn’t be hanging out with the girl if he didn’t somewhat like her to begin with.

That’s why it’s so often that cross gender relationships end up becoming some sort of real life Drama. I can imagine it already. Movie starts. Director: ME!! The crowd’s applause is almost deafening…everyone knows who I AM! I am legendary! (just imagine :-P ) Opening Scene. In the movie, there’s a guy and girl who are friends. They do everything together! There’ll be scenes of them laughing, dancing, going to fairs, eating…all that good stuff! But the best scene is of them running together in the rain, both  shielded by just one newspaper, that barely succeeds in sheltering them from the onslaught of rain. They are giggling, in ecstasy, happy and in their own little world. Two regular “carrots and peas”. The girl is convinced that this relationship is completely affectionate. But the guy starts looking at her in a new way. He starts falling in love. Pretty soon, the guy can’t stop thinking about her…BUT THERE IS A PROBLEM! There is another guy, whom the girl is madly in love with. The guy knows this, but the song “You Belong With Me” by Taylor Swift inspires him to act on his feelings. Unfortunately for Taylor Swift, BEYONCE HAS ONE OF THE BEST VIDEOS OF ALL TIME! OF ALL TIME!!!!

Anyways, guy tells the girl that he loves her. Unfortunately, girl does not feel the same. She gets mad. He tries to kiss her, she shoves him away, and starts yelling at him and gets even angrier at him and blames him for trying to ruin their friendship. She starts running. It’s in slow motion. She is crying tears of anger, as she dramatically runs away with make up smothering all over her face. Her fake eyelashes are falling off.

Guy is all alone now with rain falling down on him. He doesn’t try to shield himself from the rain anymore, but just soaks it all in. He watches girl as she runs. She’s so close…and yet….so far away. Guy is crying. These are real tears. Not just water that is put on his face in between filming. So sad.

Girl, in a state of rage and confusion, goes to see Alpha Male. Girl sees Alpha Male kissing another girl. Girl gets upset. She runs up to Alpha Male, and slaps him in the face. Alpha Male looks confused. Girl is crying now, and runs away. Rain falling. Girl goes to some secluded corner and starts to think. Maybe…just maybe…maybe I DO LOVE HIM (Friend)! SHE REALIZES SHE DOES! THERE’S HOPE! IT MIGHT WORK! THE GIRL STARTS RUNNING TO THE GUY WITH THIS REVELATION! THERE IS EXCITEMENT! IT’S GOING TO WORK! GIRL GETS TO GUY’S HOUSE!!

Girl tries to open the door. Guy hears her. IT JUST MIGHT WORK! BUT WAIT A SECOND. OH NO! Guy has a gun in his hand. He wants to commit suicide. AHHHH! (crowd gasps) Girl doesn’t know! She asks guy to “OPEN THE DOOR!” She is excited! She wants to tell him that she loves him! She should have yelled it at the door for him to hear! But for some reason, she wants to see him face to face first. Stupid movie irony. Guy yells at girl to “go away”. He doesn’t want to see her. Girl runs around to the other side of the house where there is a window so that she can tell him she loves him! Guy sees her. He looks at her. Points the gun at his head. And before girl can react, pulls the trigger.

GIRL STARTS SCREAMING AND CRYING (it’s not a good drama without a good measure of screaming and crying). SHE STARTS YELLING AT THE WINDOW, FRUITLESSLY. The blood from the gunshot wound is already drenching the ground. The girl falls to her knees, weeping. She cries till there are no more tears, MOANING as she does this. She lets out one more beastly roar from deep within her soul.

Okay. Maybe the situation won’ t be THAT dramatic. BUT HONESTLY. When there is unrequited love involved, there are some RETARDED things that happen. And although usually no one dies, hearts get broken, people get jaded, and feelings get turned upside down,some close people whom we olways cherish turns into some people we knew,To whom we used to share the evry part of our life,we just forcefully hide everything from thm even ourself....... It sucks. That’s why, if at all possible, it’s often better to avoid that sort of situation. It’s good to have friends of the opposite gender, but “close friend” is a difficult sell.....sooo nvr lose him\her....if at all this situation arrises....its ur responsibility to talk with ur opposite gender friend....n happily solve it...After ol...she is one n you are d one who cares for each other than any one else.....

So...Always remember....ITS THE WAY WE LIVE OUR LYF....:-) :-) -)

The Ladder Theory

Here’s an interesting concept in the dating world, The Ladder Theory. The ladder theory is ultimately quite simple: men have one ladder, women have two ladders. The ladder represents our willingness to “date” someone. For instance, the higher someone is on the ladder, the more likely we are to date them. The lower they are, unfortunately, the less likely we would ever consider pursuing a relationship with them..

If both male and female had one ladder, it would make things infinitely easier! However, girls have both a friend’s ladder and a “potential” ladder, whereas guys put all their cross gender relationships on the same ladder.

Basically, when a girl meets Guy X and Guy Y, she quickly evaluates both and then determines that Guy X is a guy she sees as someone she could “hook up” with while Guy Y is a guy she would never hook up with. As a result of these conclusions, each guy finds a spot on their respective ladders. Guy X is on the “potential ladder”, and Guy Y is on the “friends ladder”.

Here’s the kicker, the part that (for many guys) sucks a heck of a lot in this theory. The Girl, generally speaking, is willing to spend just as much time and show just as much affection toward the guys on her friend’s ladder as she does with the guys on her potential ladder. The reason this sucks is because the guy who’s on the friend’s ladder can’t tell whether the girl is interested or not, because she’s willing to invest and spend so much time with him!

To make matters worse, the girl usually fails to adequately notify Guy Y that he is only a “friend”. This is usually because girls really like the attention that Guy Y’s would give her. She is in denial that he “likes her”, and puts off confronting that reality as long as possible. Because of this lack of communication, the guy on the friend’s ladder begins to shamelessly pursue this girl only to find out to his horrible misery that…SYKE. He got dissed. And he fails. At life. Sucks to be the guy on the friend’s ladder.

Guys on the potential ladder can usually make a move successfully on the girl, unless he does something stupid that turns the girl off.

Now, on the other side, guys have only one ladder. These are the rules: when a guy meets a girl, she is either on the top of the ladder, or the bottom of the ladder.

Although this seems similar to the girl’s ladder, the key difference is that girls on the bottom of his ladder will not get “special attention”. As a matter of fact, guys really only spend a huge amount of time with girls on the top of their ladder. Furthermore, while guys can almost never make it from the “friends ladder” to the “potential ladder”, girls adjust positions on the one ladder a lot easier based on which girl gives the guy the most attention.

So in summary, girls, when they first meet a guy, place him on one of the two ladders: friend, or potential. Guys place a girl on the top or bottom. Girls can shift positions on the ladder, but guys are pretty much stuck on whatever ladder they start on. Well, let me state that you can switch ladders, but it takes a LOT of work, effort, energy, depression…most of the times, it’s not worth it. 

Good luck and happy hunting!!

Thnxx...for the short description i heard bout "THE LADDER THEORY".....which helped me to come up with this article.....N yes i can say tht i hav seen this very closely...:-)